Are you an insecure pastor? Chances are you have struggled with insecurity to some degree. I'll admit that insecurity has been a challenge at different seasons of my life. If a leader battles insecurity, it always shows it's ugly head. It's an inner battle that has outward implications.
The dictionary defines insecurity as "a lack of confidence or assurance; self-doubt; instability." Why is insecurity common among pastors? After all, pastors are some of the most qualified and capable leaders in the community. The struggle lies deeply in where we find our identity. Pastors are leaders. We are needed. We serve, help, encourage, and inspire. All of this is great, but somehow we get confused about who we really are.
Insecure leadership has the potential of harming any church or ministry. It's important we get to the root causes so that we can live in peace and lead with confidence.
In his classic book, 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, John Maxwell wrote:
"Insecure leaders are dangerous to themselves, their followers, and the organizations they lead because their leadership position amplifies their personal flaws. Whatever negative baggage you have in life only gets more difficult to bear when you are trying to lead others."
So how do you know if you are an insecure leader? Here are some possible signs:
1. You cannot receive any kind of criticism, even from a trusted friend.
2. You secretly resent anyone else receiving the credit.
3. You postpone and avoid making difficult decisions.
4. You regularly compare yourself with your peers.
5. Your identity is tied up in your work.
6. You do not allow anyone to know the real you.
7. You minimize the contributions of others.
8. You view any type of questions as a personal attack.
9. You criticize others who are not present.
10. You are quick to remind others of their mistakes.
11. You secretly long for the approval of others.
12. You embellish personal stories to make them sound bigger/better than they really are.
13. You avoid conflict at all cost.
14. You always put yourself up front so others will notice you.
15. You use social media in a narcissistic way.
If you see yourself in this list insecurity may be an inner struggle. Here are a few steps to find freedom:
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Hi! I'm Loren Hicks. I am follower of Jesus, a husband, a father, a friend, and for the past
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