A seasoned pastor once told me, “Every pastor has a difficult conversation, they are avoiding.” Is that true for you? Is there a necessary conversation you keep putting off?
Where there are honest relationships, there will be conflict. Churches are no exception. Our churches deal with misunderstandings, improper motives, a lack of clear expectations, failure, and even sin. Learning to be a good leader includes a willingness to have difficult conversations.
On Sunday mornings I sit on the front row of the church. I remember one Sunday, standing during praise and worship, I looked back at how small the crowd was in that particular service. Inwardly, I was so frustrated! “Where is everyone? Why aren’t our people more faithful and committed? What am I even doing here at this church?”
I distinctly remember God speaking to my heart. “If you are more concerned about the attendance than you are worshiping me, then you have turned the crowd size into idolatry. You are here because I have called you here.”
Last year at our minister’s retreat a pastor I hadn’t seen in a while came up to chat. During the course of our conversation the question came up? Why does this question always come up? “How many people are you guys running on Sundays?” I gave him our average number. He responded with a frown and “Really? I thought you guys were much bigger than that!”
I don’t know why, but for the remainder of the retreat I was discouraged. I couldn’t get his response out of my mind. In fact, I began to agree with his response…why aren’t we bigger than we are? Later that night I began to think about success. When does a pastor become a success?
Hi! I'm Loren Hicks. I am follower of Jesus, a husband, a father, a friend, and for the past